No review today, but before we get into it I thought I would give an update on my reading. I’m currently reading Drums of Autumn, which is the 4th Outlander book. It took a while (like usual) to get into, but I’m finally itching to pick it up and find out what happens next; I’m on page 516 out of 880. I’m also rereading Nevernight as a read along hosted by BookTubers Piera Forde and Little Book Owl. The first read through I just used tabs; this time I’m using new tabs and a pen! Currently, I’m on page 130!
Now for the Having a Disability and The Human Experience…
I’ve been thinking a lot about what the human experience means to me vs. other people. My life doesn’t align with other people’s and so they don’t understand what’s it like to have chronic pain, to be a ginger, education in film and photography, live in Southern Ontario, Canada, etc. These are different pillars that make me, me. But the same to be said that I don’t understand what’s it like to be someone else with different experiences, for example, I don’t know what it’s like to grow up with only one parent. When you don’t match this assumption strangers and sometimes friends or family have they push back. What I mean is I’m too young to be sick so therefore when I say I am it’s like people get offended that I don’t fit in this box they created.
Everyone sorts information into boxes to help the brain understand that information better. Make sense when you’re talking about food recipes or books. But they can be hurtful when it comes to people. Everyone makes assumptions of others and sometimes those assumptions are sexist or racist. For example, assuming a woman can’t drive well.
I hate these boxes that we put each other in. They hurt and affect relationships. Don’t assume you understand, but politely ask. Creating a dialogue with others, creates a better understanding of the world.
A quote I came across recently, “Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” -Henry Winkler
That’s also why I love books! They give me a window into someone else’s experiences fictional or not. I can get a small insight of what’s it like to be a race minority or what’s it like to live in another part of the world. I, also, can see myself in books with main characters who are women or live in Canada or have chronic pain or have a disability. I wish very badly for more books with disability represented. If you have any recommendations for books with disability, please me let know!
This post, I guess, is more for me than anyone else, but I think that’s okay. I just wish I could tell everyone I talk to politely ask why I have a cane, to not touch my cane, and offer help. In general, when you come across a disabled person ask for permission and offer help. Lastly, not every disability is visible, please remember that.
As always thanks for reading!
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