Gender & Relationships

Good hello, friends! This is one of those posts that I have been thinking about for a while and have had many conversations with friends and family about.

Recently we have made small steps, especially women, towards a more equal world for all genders. I really appreciate seeing small changes so if or when I have children they will grow up in a better world than I did.

There’s just one thing that has been bothering me that I feel needs to be talked about. Relationships. After joining the dating world again and talking to people I have noticed this imbalance that was the norm for me until now. This pressure on women to get married and have kids and young too! This ideology has been ingrained into women that is what will make them happy. Why should my life be devoted to getting married and having kids? Aren’t I person who deserves to have a career, or really anything I want like any man? It just seems like majority of women are looking for long-term, serious relationship, while men are looking for more casual fun especially in straight individuals.

My point is why can’t whoever identifies as a woman can’t decide for themselves to get married later in life, not get married at all, have kids, adopt, foster, or god for bid, have casual partners?! Why make others feel shame, guilt, inadequate, and really any negative feelings about themselves?

Also, why are people so passionate in other people’s business? You do you. Love is love. Live whatever life you want, but also, treat yo-self!

What do you think?

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2 thoughts on “Gender & Relationships

  1. “There’s just one thing that has been bothering me that I feel needs to be talked about. Relationships. After joining the dating world again and talking to people I have noticed this imbalance that was the norm for me until now. This pressure on women to get married and have kids and young too! This ideology has been ingrained into women that is what will make them happy. Why should my life be devoted to getting married and having kids? Aren’t I person who deserves to have a career, or really anything I want like any man? It just seems like majority of women are looking for long-term, serious relationship, while men are looking for more casual fun especially in straight individuals.

    My point is why can’t whoever identifies as a woman can’t decide for themselves to get married later in life, not get married at all, have kids, adopt, foster, or god for bid, have casual partners?! Why make others feel shame, guilt, inadequate, and really any negative feelings about themselves?”

    It is messed up that some of the pressures on women comes from women, seemingly.

    Let us not be quick to cut religion and the law any slack as most arguments from peers or males in the society will be rooted in those 2. You know it is a sin this, it is a sin that, or it is illegal this, it is illegal that.

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    1. 100% agreed. I definitely think religion and law are the root of the problem. Very good point to bring up and exactly what I was hoping for, to start a conversation!
      Something your comment provoked was thinking about this rejection of information just because it’s different from what they grew up believing or in one’s eyes confusing. But is it so far fetched to think that humans are capable of developing a better understanding over time about gender and relationships? If we can develop the medical field where people no longer believe to give children alcohol to help with sickness/disease or injuries. How about soap! Through understanding the importance of disinfecting millions of lives have been saved from the simple way of cleaning hands, injuries, etc. If humanity can grow understanding with those two simple things, why not believe that one day our understanding of gender and relationships can grow?

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