Fibro Friday: Showing Up For Yourself ~ 6/26/2020

Good hello, friends! Happy Friday. I had a really hard time staying awake this morning so here I am, late with my blog post. Better late than never! Although cover-19 has had it’s own struggles and of course, my fibro. I’m really proud of myself for how consistent I have been with posting Monday-Friday on here. Which leads me into today’s post about showing up for yourself. I found a helpful post on The Mighty that I used for a guide for today’s post.

I’ve been thinking this for a long time, especially after watching the recent Queer Eye season when Karamo talked about that showing up for yourself is part of being an adult. I know it’s not easy to do daily. I actually wouldn’t remind doing it daily but monthly or weekly; start small. We all struggle be that may depression, chronic pain, anxiety, or even a combo of them or more. But I can tell you right now that it has helped me be a happier person overall. I’m by no means perfect at it, but I think it wouldn’t do any of us justice if I don’t share.

Ways to Show Up for Yourself


-Commit to habits, practices, routines and rituals that are good for your well-being – even when you don’t want to. Especially when you don’t want to. I give myself two passes before I make myself do something. I have a shower every night because it helps my back pain, but if my hand is hurting too much to bare then I’ll shower in the morning. Or not letting dishes pile up. I have my two passes and that’s it or I’ll have dishes piled up all over the house.

-Allow yourself to feel a multitude of feelings without labelling it as wrong, bad or negative. Just like a Fibro Friday before where I talked about feelings being data.

-Practice listening to your needs and discovering different ways of meeting those needs. This is a great one. I can’t get much help when it comes to groceries and food prep because my dad needs so much care. So I can get someone to help apply cream to ease my pain so I’ll be able to make my food myself.

-Practice self-forgiveness; for not being perfect, for forgetting, for your past, for what you don’t know, and for getting “off- track” sometimes. Need I say more? If I’m not able to get gas for the car or not put my laundry away. Or oops, I just watched 6 hours of Netflix. Tomorrow is a new day, I forgive myself and try again tomorrow.

-Let yourself start again, over and over, as often as needed. I truly think this is why I still blog. When I started blogging I had a hell of a time staying consistent but I kept at it, kept starting over.

-Take care of your basic needs: stay hydrated, get enough sleep, move your, body, and eat plentifully. I realized it’s just as important for me to take care of myself, especially my basic needs that is why if I miss my evening shower I have it in the morning. The first step to feeling better is feeling clean.

-Give yourself permission to rest, to take break, and to have down time. This is also why I don’t get upset if I don’t get all I wanted to do in a day or week for that matter. Only through rest is my pain manageable to allow me to do what I need to.

-Spend quality time with yourself: reading, writing, creating and getting to know who you are underneath who you think you should be. You know what I needed to do before I could allow myself to get to know myself? No longer allow judgement. I enjoy what I enjoy like writing on here, reading physically, audiobooks (yes they count are reading), bullet journalling. Who would have thought I would be using spreadsheets to track my reading and using a bullet journal, not me. But I love it.

-Use a lens of curiosity and compassion with yourself as often as possible. This has helped guide me through making difficult decisions.

-Remind yourself that you are worthy of being shown up for as anyone else in life. Make yourself a priority in your own life. When I was first diagnosed, it killed me to either push myself beyond what I was capable or watch someone I wish to help. I had to make myself a priority so I could show up for myself and my family. There’s not much beyond that I’m capable of and that’s okay. If I see someone who needs help I usually find someone else who is capable.

You are worthy.

You are worthy.

You are worthy.

You are worthy.

As always, thanks for reading!

Sarah<3<3

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Not The Girl You Marry by Andie J. Christopher: Book Review

Good hello, friends! Happy Wednesday! I just so happen to come across Andie J. Christopher’s newest book at the grocery store this weekend, but I couldn’t remember how I knew the author’s name. Ha, now I know.

My Lame Synopsis: A girl believes she’s not good enough for marriage and never find love.  Goodreads

 

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My Rating: 3 out of 5 stars

Another a very average adult contemporary romance. Sure, the book had a few things going for it, but it was just too generic overall. Nothing fresh or interesting was offered or anything. We all know romance tends to be formulaic just offer something to make the book unique. Representing diverse characters isn’t enough. Not any more at least. It was so basic that I’m kind of bothered that I paid full price for it. Not only that, but I also damaged the cover so hopefully I can still donate it when it becomes safe to do so.

I’m tired of reading a characters who just want marriage and they think they’re a failure when they don’t do so on their schedule. Life happens on its own schedule. There’s nothing wrong with letting life happen. If you dream of having a love/ a life partner is an honourable dream I hope it comes true, eventually. Just make sure marriage is something you actually want and not just something that you’re told to have to be happy, the next life event you need to meet.

As always, thanks for reading!

Sarah<3<3

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The Bromance Book Club by Lyssa Kay Adams: Book Review

Good hello, friends! Happy Thursday! My province has announced plans for reopening. I’m excited and yet very nervous. I really hope it works and we don’t get a second wave of cases and deaths.

My Lame Synopsis: A professional baseball player has martial problems. Can reading romance help him get his wife back?  Goodreads

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My Rating: 3.75 out of 5 stars

This concept of men reading romance novels to help them communicate is right up my ally. I think it’s clever and fun. When the boys got together to discuss the book, that was my favourite. I also enjoyed the format; Lyssa Kay Adams includes parts of the romance novel the book club is reading and does it beautifully. It’s like 2 books for one, haha. Both were well written and seamlessly switched between them.

A close second for my favourite part was the family. I loved seeing Gavin with Ava and Amelia; it just warmed my heart.

What really bothered me though, and was some what made up for in the second book, was ‘The Russian’ character. I hated what Adams did with the character. In general, the book needed more diversity. That’s what brought my star rating down.

As always, thanks for reading!

Sarah<3<3

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Fibro Friday: Humble Brag ~4/3/2020

Good hello, friends! The world has been a scarier place lately so sometimes I prefer to focus on the positive. I think it’s good for mental health and self acceptance. We are all imperfect humans, but we all have something to celebrate. For example, on Tuesday this week I was feeling myself and confident enough to take some self-portraits (also known as selfies, haha).

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I think I look cute. For the first time in a long time I had fun putting make up on and I was inspired to take some pictures.

There’s no shame in acknowledging in what you’re good or even great at. I hope it helps you realize that you’re smart and talented. Be that may be math, science, writing, etc. I also hope this inspires you to think of all the things you are good at.

I humbly brag that I have been writing on this here blog for two years, TWO! I also reached 800 posts on my Bookstagram account! My Bookstagram is also so close to 1,000 followers (be sure to follow me if aren’t already, linked below!)! I’m proud of my endurance to stick with both. It all started with a love of reading that I needed to share and express. It has not be an easy journey and fibro has repeated held me back, but if I had to miss a day then tomorrow was always another chance.

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What are you humbly proud of?

As always, thanks for reading!

Sarah<3<3

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Take A Hint, Dani Brown by Talia Hibbert: ARC Review

Good hello, friends! I hope you don’t mention that today I’m focusing on my review than again mentioning the virus. Furthermore, I just finished this over the weekend and couldn’t wait to post my review! I so very kindly sent an e-book of Take a Hint, Dani Brown from Avon Books at Harper Collins. Thank you so much, your kindness couldn’t have been bestowed on a more loving subject. This series means so much to me, especially Get A Life, Chloe Brown with a main character with the same chronic illness as me.

My Lame Synopsis: It a second book from Get A Life, Chloe Brown but about her sister Dani this time! Goodreads

 

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My Rating: 5 out of 5 stars

I loved it! I read and loved Get A Life, Chloe Brown, the first book, and now I can say I am hooked on Talia Hibbert! I’m going to read all her work now. She’s an auto-read author for me now.

I had so much fun reading this book! I think Hibbert and I have a similar sense of humour because I laughed so much. The writing overall was fun and quirky just like Dani. Dani and Zafir had depth, dimension, and growth. Hibbert can craft excellent characters, Dani and Chloe have this prickly but lovable quality that is now my favourite trope. Zafir as a love interest was just a sweetheart. It refreshing to read of a male character struggling with anxiety, especially in the romance genre. Also, It was wonderful to read of male love interest actively abolish toxic masculinity and toxic environments in sports..

I have to thank Talia Hibbert for her writing and what she’s contributing to contemporary literature. She has allowed me to be seen like never before. The people and story were so good that they both felt real. I even wanted to search the hashtag up myself at one point!

As always, thanks for reading!

Sarah<3<3

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Tell Me How You Really Feel by Aminah Mae Safi: Book Review

Good hello, friends! Happy Wednesday! Oh boy! I am definitely going to be spilling the T today.

My Lame Synopsis: F/F romance. I don’t even want to tell you what it’s about! One of them is into movies and wants to be a filmmaker and the other helps her out. Goodreads

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My Rating: 2 out of 5 stars

Yeah, I didn’t like this. I almost DNf’ed it, but I pushed through since I was reading it for a readathon. I was so hoping to like this being that there’s not enough F/F romances out there especially in YA. I thought it was awesome that just like me Rachel like films. When in fact, I liked Rachel the least. A book can’t be a book that is accomplishing something by just being, you know? Sure, it’s cool that they’re part of minority but doesn’t make a good book. There were too many unnecessary plot points, which relied too heavily on stereotypes and unrealistic drama. Looking at you unnamed teacher. because you know, spoilers.

In the way of characters, I only kind of liked Sana, but she was very flat and at times bleh. I only liked Diesel and he was side of a side character!

Also, what was with all the cheesy and cringy lines? If the goal was to make me think ‘awe’ you failed. #sorrynotsorry

As always, thanks for reading!

Sarah<3<3

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The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern: Book Review

Good hello, friends! Happy Tuesday! Another 5 star review after Sadie by Courtney Summers! This one though is a little more magical.

My Lame Synopsis: In the early 1900s, a circus that only opens at night appears. This circus is like no other and somehow travels all other the world. We soon find out why and how Celia and Marco are involved. Not everything is as how it seems. Goodreads

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My Rating: 5 out of 5 stars

Oh my god, this book. I listened to the audiobook and it was pure atmospheric bliss. There was so much magic and romance. At the time I read this back in November The Night Circus was Erin Morgenstern’s first and only book, but I knew another one was coming soon and I love the cover so of course that means I want to read it. Haha. Since then, her second book The Starless Sea has been released. After such a beautiful book like The Night Circus, I’m curious about her second book. I would like to compare the wonderful story and writing of The Night Circus to it.

The story jumped around in timelines a lot and my brain fog made it difficult to follow. But I made sure to start paying closer attention to the years whenever the audiobook switched timelines and that helped a lot. Despite that the characters were a little flat the beautiful atmosphere made up for anything the book was lacking. I can say the same thing about the romances. Now, I will say if I read the book physically the atmosphere wouldn’t have had as big as an impact as it did in the audiobook. But I would say the same thing for Daisy Jones & The Six by Taylor Jenkins Reid and I did!

As always, thanks for reading!

Sarah<3<3

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A Man Called One by Fredrik Backman: Book Review

Good hello, friends! Happy Thursday! There’s so much snow where I am and more to come! I really am looking forward to my shots today and hope that I can get there safely. On to the review of a new favourite!

My Lame Synopsis: This old man, Ove feels like life isn’t the same without his wife. He’s grumpy and kind. Goodreads

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My Rating: 5 out of 5 stars

Oh my god, what a wonderful story, truly. Fredrik Backman’s prose is like pure poetry. I just happen to pick it up on my library app and it ended up blowing me away. I only just found out that Backman’s work is translated and still the book is beautiful. Thank you to him and the translator!

Backman’s portrayal of Ove is just lovely. I loved how grumpy he was. Also, loved how resistant to everything he was, but still so helpful and somehow kind too. Speaking of which, this beautiful way of Ove helping others helped him too was so precious. 

There were many themes that were well done in A Man Called Ove, for example, grief, end of life, and helping others. I also felt there were commentary on the medical field and the flaws it has for supporting the sick and elderly. Moreover, the commentary Backman provided through the representation of this man in a white shirt.

As always, thanks for reading!

Sarah<3<3

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Josh and Hazel’s Guide to Not Dating by Christina Lauren: Book Review

Good hello, friends! Happy Tuesday! I’m absolutely excited for today. I have decided today is going to be a good day. Yesterday was an awful pain day, I even experienced a pain that I’ve never experienced before. Today can only be better. I’m recovering from yesterday, but I’m also going to be productive too! I’m especially going to get a lot of reading done! Now to the review!

My Lame Synopsis: Josh and Hazel met 10 years ago in college when Josh was Hazel’s TA. Now that they have reconnected they set each other up on blind dates. No sexual tension, here (*sarcasm*). Goodreads

 

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My Rating: 3.5 out of 5 stars

Well, what can I say other than the book was very average. I couldn’t for the life of me remember what happened let alone the basics of what the book was about. I had to read a summary just to write this review! Sure, I have notes from when I first finished it, but it’s vaguely just my feelings of the book that’s it. Speaking of review notes..

I did really enjoy Hazel as a character; she’s weird and quirky like me. May even say messy like me too, haha. She was definitely very relatable. Josh on the other hand was kind of generic, however, made a cute half of the hazel and Josh sandwich. They both, but especially Hazel made me laugh at times. Also, their families were wonderful, I just love reading of good families, brings a joy to the book instead of  toxic, complex families.

As always, thanks for reading!

Sarah<3<3

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Fibro Friday: A Reminder to be Kind to Yourself. ~02/07/2020

Good hello, friends! Happy Friday. I’ve been feeling like I’ve needed the reminder and maybe a few of you too that we all need to be kind to ourselves.

We all make mistakes.

We deserve love.

We are worthy.

We are stronger than we know.

Remember to laugh and love freely.

Be unapologetically you.

Our feelings and opinion matter.

We are beautiful.

We deserve respect.

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness.


As always, thanks for reading!

Sarah<3<3

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